CunningLinguist

Suppose you`re having what you consider an intellectual conversation with an individual that you met online and the two of you decided to exchange pics. You send the person a nicely groomed photo of yourself,but in return, they send you a nude photo of themself. What thought(s) would cross your mind? Would you continue the conversation?

why do intellectualism and sexuality have to be on divergent ends of the spectrum?

i think one leads to another, at least for me. they`re not mutually exclusive. i wouldn`t do it personally, i have body issues. there are a couple reason i would think that someone would do something like that, but it would be a generalisation and a judgement.

What is the ultimate sacrifice you`ll make for love and why? (this could be the love of a child, spouse, parent, etc.) Do you feel like you`ve already made the ultimate sacrifice what were the results

as a parent i don`t think any sacrifice is too great too make for your children. no ifs, ands or buts.

as for interpersonal relationships, well, i think, hmmm… read a few entries…

stole this from sungoddess

1984, George Orwell

The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho

Alice`s Adventures In Wonderland, Lewis Carroll

Animal Farm, George Orwell

Anna Karenina, Leo Tolstoy

Anne Of Green Gables, LM Montgomery

Artemis Fowl, Eoin Colfer

The BFG, Roald Dahl

Birdsong, Sebastian Faulks

Black Beauty, Anna Sewell

Bleak House, Charles Dickens

Brave New World, Aldous Huxley

Brideshead Revisited, Evelyn Waugh

Bridget Jones`s Diary, Helen Fielding

Captain Corelli`s Mandolin, Louis de Bernieres

Catch 22, Joseph Heller

The Catcher In The Rye, JD Salinger

Charlie And The Chocolate Factory, Roald Dahl

A Christmas Carol, Charles Dickens

The Clan Of The Cave Bear, Jean M Auel

Cold Comfort Farm, Stella Gibbons

The Colour Of Magic, Terry Pratchett

The Count Of Monte Cristo, Alexandre Dumas

Crime And Punishment, Fyodor Dostoevsky

David Copperfield, Charles Dickens

Double Act, Jacqueline Wilson

Dune, Frank Herbert

Emma, Jane Austen

Far From The Madding Crowd, Thomas Hardy

Girls In Love, Jacqueline Wilson

The God Of Small Things, Arundhati Roy

The Godfather, Mario Puzo

Gone With The Wind, Margaret Mitchell

Good Omens, Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman

Goodnight Mister Tom, Michelle Magorian

Gormenghast, Mervyn Peake

The Grapes Of Wrath, John Steinbeck

Great Expectations, Charles Dickens

The Great Gatsby, F Scott Fitzgerald

Guards! Guards!, Terry Pratchett

Harry Potter And The Chamber Of Secrets, JK Rowling

Harry Potter And The Goblet Of Fire, JK Rowling

Harry Potter And The Philosopher`s Stone, JK Rowling

Harry Potter And The Prisoner Of Azkaban, JK Rowling

His Dark Materials trilogy, Philip Pullman

The Hitchhiker`s Guide To The Galaxy, Douglas Adams

The Hobbit, JRR Tolkien

Holes, Louis Sachar

I Capture The Castle, Dodie Smith

Jane Eyre, Charlotte Bronte

Kane And Abel, Jeffrey Archer

Katherine, Anya Seton

The Lion, The Witch And The Wardrobe, CS Lewis

Little Women, Louisa May Alcott

Lord Of The Flies, William Golding

The Lord Of The Rings, JRR Tolkien

Love In The Time Of Cholera, Gabriel Garcia Marquez

The Magic Faraway Tree, Enid Blighton

Magician, Raymond E Feist

The Magus, John Fowles

Matilda, Roald Dahl

Memoirs Of A Geisha, Arthur Golden

Middlemarch, George Eliot

Midnight`s Children, Salman Rushdie

Mort, Terry Pratchett

Night Watch, Terry Pratchett

Noughts And Crosses, Malorie Blackman

Of Mice And Men, John Steinbeck

On The Road, Jack Kerouac

One Hundred Years Of Solitude, Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Perfume, Patrick Suskind

Persuasion, Jane Austen

The Pillars Of The Earth, Ken Follett

A Prayer For Owen Meany, John Irving

Pride And Prejudice, Jane Austen

The Princess Diaries, Meg Cabot

The Ragged Trousered Philantrhopists, Robert Tressell

Rebecca, Daphne Du Maurier

The Secret Garden, Frances Hodgson Burnett

The Secret History, Donna Tartt

The Shell Seekers, Rosamunde Pilcher

The Stand, Stephen King

The Story Of Tracy Beaker, Jacqueline Wilson A Suitable Boy, Vikram Seth

Swallows And Amazons, Arthur Ransome

A Tale Of Two Cities, Charles Dickens

Tess Of The D`urbervilles, Thomas Hardy

The Thorn Birds, Colleen McCollough

To Kill A Mockingbird, Harper Lee

A Town Like Alice, Nevil Shute

Treasure Island, Robert Louis Stevenson

The Twits, Roald Dahl

Ulysses, James Joyce

Vicky Angel, Jacqueline Wilson

War And Peace, Leo Tolstoy

Watership Down, Richard Adams

The Wind In The Willows, Kenneth Grahame

Winnie-the-Pooh, AA Milne

The Woman In White, Wilkie Collins

Wuthering Heights, Emily Bronte

bold equals read, i can`t tag the ones i own because i`m not sure of the total contents of our library, yet

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If you could go back to any age, what age would you choose and WHY?

i wouldn`t actually. i`m pretty happy with me right now. well i would go back about three years and suggest a different course of action but otherwise, every step in my life that has brought me here, is a learning and growth purpose.

every stumbling block, every adversity, everything has happened for a purpose. it may not be clear to me right now, but i can look back on it and work out the lesson.

i`m happier now than i`ve ever been in my life, set backs aside. why would i want to give that up?

question of the day or week in this case

If you were offered a commercial (90-SECONDS) spot during prime-time television to SAY or PROMOTE anything you wanted, how would you use this time

choices, choices, choices.

i would promote tolerance. for religion, for sexuality, for ethnicity, for our fellow man. think about the affect on you before you judge.

a lot of the worlds ills could be solved with a little more tolerance.

Do you think there is gender discrimination in regards to child support or the courts awarding custody of children to fathers?

thankfully in my experience no, but i have heard some horror stories. the extended family that i call my own is interesting on many levels and even with personal disagreements, everyone has the welfare of the children at heart.

i`m grateful for that.

i don`t usually censor what i say here but this is not a place for details about my children, so that`s going to be the depth and breath of my answer

this has been knocking about JS today after a fashion, all courtesy jazzchic.

the list is based on user votes, some of the choices below 100 are quite interesting. i`ve highlighted all the ones i`ve seen and yes, i`m a movie buff.

1 Godfather, The (1972)

2 Shawshank Redemption, The (1994)

3 Godfather: Part II, The (1974)

4 Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King, The (2003)

5 Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers, The (2002)

6 Casablanca (1942)

7 Schindler`s List (1993)

8 Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring, The (2001)

9 Shichinin no samurai [Seven Samurai] (1954)

10 Star Wars (1977)

11 Citizen Kane (1941)

12 One Flew Over the Cuckoo`s Nest (1975)

13 Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb (1964)

14 Rear Window (1954)

15 Star Wars: Episode V – The Empire Strikes Back (1980)

16 Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981)

17 Memento (2000)

18 Usual Suspects, The (1995)

19 Pulp Fiction (1994)

20 North by Northwest (1959)

21 Fabuleux destin d`Amélie Poulain, Le [Amélie] (2001)

22 12 Angry Men (1957)

23 Psycho (1960)

24 Lawrence of Arabia (1962)

25 Buono, il brutto, il cattivo, Il [The Good, The Bad & The Ugly] (1966)

26 Silence of the Lambs, The (1991)

27 It`s a Wonderful Life (1946)

28 Goodfellas (1990)

29 American Beauty (1999)

30 Vertigo (1958)

31 Sunset Blvd. (1950)

32 Matrix, The (1999)

33 Pianist, The (2002)

34 Apocalypse Now (1979)

35 To Kill a Mockingbird (1962)

36 Some Like It Hot (1959)

37 C`era una volta il West [Once upon a time in the West] (1968)

38 Taxi Driver (1976)

39 Third Man, The (1949)

40 Paths of Glory (1957)

41 Fight Club (1999)

42 Sen to Chihiro no kamikakushi  [Spirited Away] (2001)

43 Boot, Das (1981)

44 Double Indemnity (1944)

45 L.A. Confidential (1997)

46 Chinatown (1974)

47 Singin` in the Rain (1952)

48 Maltese Falcon, The (1941)

49 Requiem for a Dream (2000)

50 M (1931)

51 Bridge on the River Kwai, The (1957)

52 All About Eve (1950)

53 Monty Python and the Holy Grail (1975)

54 Se7en (1995)

55 Saving Private Ryan (1998)

56 Cidade de Deus [City of God] (2002)

57 Raging Bull (1980)

58 Rashômon (1950)

59 Wizard of Oz, The (1939)

60 Sting, The (1973)

61 Alien (1979)

62 American History X (1998)

63 Mr. Smith Goes to Washington (1939)

64 Léon (1994)

65 Vita è bella, La [Life is Beautiful] (1997)

66 Touch of Evil (1958)

67 Manchurian Candidate, The (1962)

68 2001: A Space Odyssey (1968)

69 Treasure of the Sierra Madre, The (1948)

70 Wo hu cang long [Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon] (2000)

71 Great Escape, The (1963)

72 Clockwork Orange, A (1971)

73 Reservoir Dogs (1992)

74 Amadeus (1984)

75 Annie Hall (1977)

76 Ran (1985)

77 Jaws (1975)

78 Modern Times (1936)

79 On the Waterfront (1954)

80 Braveheart (1995)

81 High Noon (1952)

82 Apartment, The (1960)

83 Fargo (1996)

84 Sixth Sense, The (1999)

85 Aliens (1986)

86 Shining, The (1980)

87 Strangers on a Train (1951)

88 Blade Runner (1982)

89 Metropolis (1927)

90 Duck Soup (1933)

91 Donnie Darko (2001)

92 Finding Nemo (2003)

93 General, The (1927)

94 Princess Bride, The (1987)

95 Toy Story 2 (1999)

96 City Lights (1931)

97 Lola rennt [Run Lola Run] (1998)

98 Great Dictator, The (1940)

99 Notorious (1946)

100 Kill Bill: Vol. 1 (2003)

Why do you think we are quick to believe something negative about someone before we accept/believe something positive? Even when it’s obvious that someone has done something positive…like lose weight…there is always someone who assumes you starved or had plastic surgery…they have to attach something NEGATIVE to your good news. Why are we so drawn to negative stories and bad luck? Do you think this is the reason bad news sells?

we`ve become a generation of cynics. we`ve had our trust betrayed so many times by our leaders and exemplars [insert variety here] that we tend to believe the worst.

the media only provides what we want to see. on an individual level we still believe in the milk of human kindness, somewhat but to the mob that milk has long since curdled.

and the mob rules, we tend to accept whatever is present to us as gospel. we need to learn to think and ask questions. most of the time when you stop to ask you realise that the cynicism isn`t warranted, except in the case of politics and religion. there is always a hidden agenda.

I named my journal SOUL DEEP for a reason. I feel I’m giving people a view into my SOUL.

What causes a person to think of someone or make a connection with someone they`ve never physically met? Is it the anonymity or the mystery of not knowing who we are really communicating with? If you make an online connection with someone are you attracted to the inner or outer person? (I mean you are getting to know them intimately sight unseen. ) Could you fall for someone online and would that be enough of a connection to bypass outer appearances? If you do make a connection BUT are disappointed later by outer appearances, does that make you shallow?

i think i`m proof. it is possible to connect intimately with someone you met online. there are two option when you meet someone online, you could lie like hell, sooner or later it will catch up to you. or you can be completely and totally honest. lay it out on the line, all of it, idiosyncrasies, foibles, everything. if they can`t deal with it, you`ve displaced some electrons, you don`t exchange anymore emails, you move them off your buddy list, you haven`t committed too much you move on with your life.

there are some people you feel an affinity too, you may not to get into a relationship with them but you sense in the potential for great friendship.

as for outer appearances, i think our true exterior is formed by the person we are inside. yes there are good looking people, but the people with inner goodness, truly radiate beauty, it becomes them. so for you to like the inner person and then become horrified by outward appearances, you either truly misjudged the person or you`re shallow.

You and a good friend – maybe even your best friend – have gotten, well… closer. So close as to have started having sexual relations. It`s all good… now you have the perfect fuck friend, but is it truly possible to keep the FRIEND part going, and indulge in the FUCK part… or have you just irrepairably changed things-and not neccesarily for the better? If you stop having sex…where does it leave you two?

i haven`t had this problem as an adult, for the simple reason that i`d mostly moved past casual sex and if i were interested in a relationship [sex and all] i would become friends at any rate. i`ve found that it helps when the relationship portion is over, you have a friendship to go back to.

but that`s just me.

Apologizing to a s/o or spouse can be difficult, especially when it`s a disagreement you`ve had numerous times before. Maybe you just can`t seem to get the word “sorry” out of your mouth, or perhaps you`ve tried every last thing you could think of to show them that this time you really mean it.

Men/Women, how do you go about apologizing to your mate?? How important do you think it is to apologize when you`re wrong?

in the closing days of my first marriage, the words flew fast and furiously. had they been physical violence, i wouldn`t be here today. the lesson i learned from that is to be very careful what you say.

it took me a while longer to learn to say i`m sorry and to admit that i was wrong. where i am now with vic, we have disagreements but we talk about them and work them out. i think it`s a matter of sorting it out before you get to the recriminations stage.

if you can sort it out early and work out what`s wrong and what`s upsetting your partner it helps with the apology.