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it’s been on my mind… 

for vic 
and an article that i’ve been looking for ages, recorded here for prosperity – the taste of a woman 

NERVE QUOTE OF THE DAY: 
“The womb of a woman is in the numbers of the insatiable things mentioned in the Scriptures. I cannot tell whether there is anything in the world its greediness may be compared unto; neither hell fire nor the earth being so devouring, as the privy parts of a lascivious woman.” -Dr. Nicholas de Venette, quoted in the The Mysteries of Love Revealed, 18th century 

i’ve been cruising about various message boards and it saddens me to see just how homophobic and repressed my people are. i have a healthy attitude towards sex and i’m blessed with a partner who has one too, we’re able to communicate our desires with each other with out shame or fear. but as i read various posts, i wonder what makes me so different. i grew up here, i received the same education but i don’t think like my people. it’s so strange, i feel like such an outsider sometimes. a daily newspaper ran the same sex marriage story as a subhead yesterday and the whole country is in an uproar. religious leaders are talking out of their ass. and it’s not even here. 

sometime ago i’d written a commentary about abortion, i think the same principles apply, so i’m going to post it here: 

Let repression reign 
“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For by the standard you judge you will be judged, and the measure you use will be the measure you receive. 
Why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye, but fail to see the beam of wood in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye,’ while there is a beam in your own? 
You hypocrite! First remove the beam from your eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” 
— Matthew Chapter 7 verses 1 – 5
 

Sunday saw the Catholic non-govermental organisation, Emmanuel Community’s anti-abortion march. The march was in direct response to an appeal by ASPIRE (Advocates for Safe Parenthood: Improving Reproductive Equity) for the repeal of the current abortion legislation. 

The Emmanuel Community and the Catholic Church believe that the legalisation of abortion is detrimental to the quality of life. 
Funny, I would have thought that both poverty and pedophelia would be detrimental to the quality of life as well. Where was the Emmanuel Community march then? 

Call me a cynic but I don’t think these people should have the nerve to talk about the quality of life. What we need at the beginning of the third millenia is education and discourse, not the Catholic Church and their mouthpieces spouting the same moral diatribe that continues to promote abuse and poverty. 

The male dominated Catholic Church and members of IRO appear to be living in some sort of time and testosterone warped reality where a woman’s role is to be subservient to her man and stay home and bear children. One Anglican bishop went so far as to say “Women shouldn’t be given a choice”. 

What is even more saddening is these same IRO leaders have also objected to sex education and the introduction of condoms in high schools claiming the free distribution of condoms would give rise to promiscuity in the society. One of their major arguments against legalising abortion is that it will be used as a form of contraception. The people who use abortion as a form of contraception are already doing so. 

Legalised abortion and contraception is not a carte blanche for sexual activity. 

My other problem specifically with the Emmanuel Community is who are they to be advising people on sexuality and the reprecussions thereof? They should get their own house in order before they bring their weight and judgment to bear. This same repression of sexuality and any discourse on it is at the root of the rampant sexual abuse within the Catholic Church. How can you preach to entire societies on sexual mores and abstinence when your own exemplars are using their power to sexually abuse children? 

My other concern with the Emmanuel Community and their march is how in touch are these people with the day to day realities of living in Trinidad & Tobago? A cross section of the people gathered at the Jean Pierre Complex yesterday afternoon included the more affluent portions of the populace—the sort of people who can afford a quick visit to their ob/gyn or a private medical clinic to perform a legal D&C or D&E, if pregnancy is not in their plans. 

Maybe if they weren’t able to hide behind the legality of having money they would be singing a different tune. 
What these people need to realise is that young people in this country are having sex and rather than taking some moral high ground and frowning upon them, we need to be providing them with sensible and detailed information, to help them make the right choices themselves. 

how did we get here. sigh. i started off with such good intentions and then i got sidetracked. go forth and be tolerant.

posted to arouse

May 29, 2003 — Leave a comment

i can hear the rain falling on the roof of the office, i’m not working, i’m cruising around online, following links and reading things that attract my eye like:

james joyce’s dirty letters

which i got off a link on the reverse cowgirl’s blog

and this really hot story on goodvibes

i really should find something to do, something to distract from this longing

these are the closing days of national masturbation month, a subject that is close to my fingertips of late these days.

it’s all about longing that throbbing in the pit of your stomach, the tingle of your skin, the need to feel vic’s skin against mine.

mastubation continues to be just an outlet. a form of relief, but i’m orally fixated. how do duplicte the sensation of hands in your hair, thighs pressed against your ears, the taste, the smell, the feel, the overwhelmed sense of joy in giving pleasure.

i should go to work. i’m sitting here frustrating myself. i have a whole ahead of me with lots of free time to do that.

oh. my. god.

May 12, 2003 — Leave a comment

i don’t think i should be watching secretary at work.

i am 50 minutes into the movie and i have just witnessed the single most erotic thing i have ever come across in film. the scene is both visually and aurally stimulating. i’m going to have to watch the rest of this at home, i don’t think i can continue watching and function properly in the office.

this is definitely a must own. and shared.

going to work, i need the distraction

a warm welcome to all the people who i’ve encouraged to start their own blog. congrats, i hope it proves as fulfilling to you as it does to me. i’ve been able to vent a lot of the rage and unhappiness in my life without hurting anyone. i’m struggling to hold on a daily basis, this has been a catharsis.

now a word from our sponsors…
mac humour

and we’re back, today feels like a good day. feels great actually, exciting, ripe, filled with possibilites.

obviously there is no blood gettting to my head, if i’m uttering shit like that. i’d planned to take the entire day off work today but we have to make a presentation to a client today and with my inability to focus yesterday i didn’t get anything done, funnily i’m not sure how much i’m going to get through today, i’m still in that space, i really need to fins an outlet for all this sexual energy. there are a lot of things masturbation doesn’t even begin to cover.

while we’re on the topic, here is a review of a book on the topic
and more fun with language

i need to get an early start so i bid you all a fond adieu

well, it appears that the dry season is now officially over. i’m sitting here listening to the rain beat a tattoo on the roof. i love the rain, the sound on the roof, the smell of hot asphalt after the rain falls, cars swishing by in the wet.

it hasn’t done anything for the heat, it’s still sweltering here. now we’re just hot and wet.

good vibes has updated the masturbation month page, the theme this year is “I’d rather be masturbating.”, cute although i’m indulging because i’m not getting any, although mutual masturbation is quite lovely.

can anyone explain to me why in this day and age, it still takes anything to three weeks to get from one end of the caribbean to another or why in an organisation the siz and scope of the INS or as it’s now known, the department of homeland security immigraiton division, why there aren’t back up systems?

you can’t tell me where my application is because the system is down?
what the fuck is that? and you don’t know when it will be back up?
and i can’t get pissed off at these people, because they hold my fucking life in their hands. i don’t even know if it’s safe to vent online.

sigh, i’m going to play in the rain, something has to make this day better.

quick note

May 2, 2003 — Leave a comment

may is national masturbation month. if you’re appalled, too fucking bad, move on. if you’re interested read on…

“Good Vibrations began celebrating National Masturbation Month in 1995 because we wanted to highlight the importance of masturbation for nearly everyone: it’s safe, it’s healthy, it’s free, it’s pleasurable and it helps people get to know their bodies and their sexual responses. Of all the kinds of sex people can have, masturbation is the most universal and important, yet few people talk about it freely — worse, many people still feel it is “second best” or problematic in some way. National Masturbation Month lets us emphasize how great it is: it’s natural, common and fun!” 

good vibrations haven’t updated their page for this year yet, but here is the url for further details

there is also the masturbate for peace website, which i can’t be bothered to look for right now but i’m sure you all know how to use google and yahoo.

it’s been a long day and i should have realised from my mood yesterday what’s going on with me. the hormones are ramping up, my skin is all tingly, hormones are in overdrive…

well you get the general idea.

i don’t think the temperature is helping much. it’s avergaging mid 30C (not quite sure what the F equivalent is) daily and the night time lows are still in the high 20s and 30s.

i left work today to get a print made and didn’t go back. i just didn’t feel like being cooped up anymore and i wasn?t really working, my mind had been wandering all day, i wasn’t particularly nasty to anyone, i just didn’t feel like working.

it’s tax season here and as a self employed person (well formerly self employed), i have to gather all my bills, the due date for filing was today, but i only got the form on monday and i’ve never filed as a self employed and i need to find out what is allowable. more fun.

i know a lot of the furor of this has died down but as a bisexual in a monogamous hetro relationship, the concepts of Rick Santorum comments are very distressing to me and lot of the things that worry me are outlined here

the question of sexual privacy is a big deal for me. i live in a country where oral and anal sex are still illegal. no one is coming to your house to check…

yet.