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sex for sale, cheap

August 26, 2004 — Leave a comment

Jenna Jameson has published a book, more power to her. there are editorials everywhere either lauding or decrying the mainstreaming of porn. i`m truly shocked that anyone is surprised, we`ve turned sexuality into a commodity and like any over-exposed commodity we`ve decreased the value. the adult industry needs to go mainstream, it`s simply a matter of survival.

we can see as much breasts and butocks in 30 seconds of prime time advertising as Cinemax`s late night programming and it`s only going to get worse, not because the adult industry is going mainstream but because we are becoming more repressed. it`s a vicious circle; we`re becoming more and more desensitised to sex, so advertisers are going to greater extremes to get our attention and in a knee jerk reaction people are going to find more stuff objectionable, which brings us back to doe, doe, doe. it`s a self perpetuating cycle and the solution is so simple. well at least i think so.

stop objectifying sexuality.

it`s natural, people need to accept that. it`s not simply for procreation, it`s not the solely the purview of people in love or people who are married. it is a natural instinct. i`m not saying you should go out and copulate with everyone you meet; well actually that is your choice, but we need to realise that the enjoyment of our sexuality is hardwired into our psyches. i`ve had a lot of sex, some of it in love, some of it fantastic, occasionally bad, some experimental. does this make me less of a person? i think not. i`ve accepted my desires and found someone to share them with.

the key to advertising is desire. advertisers try to sell you things; whether you want or need them by playing on your desires. until people accept that; to quote George Michael; `sex is natural, sex is fun`, sexuality is going to be pivotal as selling point. if we want to see less of it, we need to take it back, teach ourselves and our children that sex is not a bad thing.

has anyone noticed the connection between morality and pornography, well aside from the obvious. i mean every time there is a marked upswing by people wishing to enforce a particular brand of morals, there is a major jump in the pornographic industry?

the Victorian era, one of the most prolific in terms of erotica. The 80s saw the rise of the Meese Commission, Jerry Falwell, Jimmy Baker, Jimmy Swaggart and Pat Graham as well as the high points in terms of both popularity and profit, of Penthouse and Hustler.

here we are again a new generation and new campaigns to enforce a particular brand of morals and what do we have to go along with it? Mainstream of the porn industry. why? because sexuality is a natural part of the human experience. we are one of only two species that have sex for fun.

the more they you try to repress it, the more avenues it`s going to come pouring out. do you think that fact that sex is used to sell everything is accidental? no, the point of advertising to make us desire, to seek things that we don`t have.

i want to raise my point again about the level of hypocrisy about the Superbowl furore, how can you, in a televised event featuring advertisements for tablets for male enhancement and alcohol featuring half naked women honestly object to the presence of a naked breast.

and therein lies the problem with morality, it`s convenient and hypocritical.

i would love my children to abstain from sex until they`re married at 35, but i honestly know that`s not going to happen, so i`m going to give them as much information as i can to help them make the right decisions. i can`t live their lives for them and as much as i`d like to, i can`t protect them from everything but i can certainly try and i think the best form of protection i can give them is information.

abstinence education is not working.

“Three-quarters of newly reported STI cases are in those under 25 years of age. Sexually transmitted infections like gonorrhoea, chlamydia, and human papilloma virus are being spread at shocking rates, again, mainly among the young…”

we need to educate our children, quickly and correctly because this current wave of pseudo-morality is most certainly not the answer.

today`s post brought to you by:

Heather Corinna Photography

Boucher`s The Rape of Europa

Rape and nakedness, I`m going to hell, you can read the sordid tale here.

according to The Art of War it is best to know your enemy and i`ve taken to reading the journal everyday, to keep abreast [oooh, i said breast too, fire and brimstone] of the situation. apparently he`s been getting a lot of hate mail. it`s strange, they mention all the hate and abusive mail they`ve gotten but there is no mention of my careful though out and worded treatise, which you can read here. i`m not surprised, this is how ignorance works, it feeds on itself.

don`t send angry messages, it doesn`t help, it just fuels witch hunts like this. information and logic are the best measures. this particular brand of ignorance has websites like scarleteen blocked by net nanny and the like because they approach the idea of teenagers and sexuality in an open manner.

i`m not invalidating that argument that there are things on JS unsuitable for minors, but JS should be least of the worries of any parent. if the minor is intelligent and precocious enough to get online, i doubt very much they`re going to be heading here to look for inappropriate materials. and if anyone needs to be taken to task it should be the parents of these children. i understand that as a parent you don`t have control of everything your child sees, hears or interacts with, but it is your responsibility as a parent to give you children the tools to deal with these situations. being armed with the right information can help children can make the right decisions.

the key is not waiting until you think they`re the right age. there is no right age. children are intelligent and voracious by nature, they absorb what`s around them, they learn by example and osmosis. part of the job description as a parent is to create an environment that will help them maintain your value system even when they`re not in your presence.

the reason porn is so prevalent is the value we attach to it. the day sexuality and the human body regain their rightful places as a simple part of human development, the sex industry is going to go out of business.

learn something new today, follow the sex education web circle

Soylent Green

May 17, 2004 — Leave a comment

how appropriate, that the morality police should strike in May, it is national masturbation month, obviously this witch hunt is one person`s onanistic endeavour. please don`t sit back and think it`s not your problem. keep this in mind:

In Germany they first came for the Communists,

and I didn`t speak up because I wasn`t a Communist.

Then they came for the Jews,

and I didn`t speak up because I wasn`t a Jew.

Then they came for the trade unionists,

and I didn`t speak up because I wasn`t a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Catholics,

and I didn`t speak up because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me —

and by that time no one was left to speak up.

Pastor Martin Niemöller

speak up, make your voice be heard. you may not have nudes in your gallery or erotica in your journal, but the first step is always the doozy. if that`s how it begins, how soon do you think before the language we use or the thoughts we express may be suppressed for not fitting someone`s ideal of morality.


a couple people have asked who do we speak to, well i would suggest JS-development, but i`m sure they have their hands full dealing with other stuff. so i`m suggesting you post in your journal a sex positive link and/or a nude photo/illustration/sculpture of a human form, particularly if you are a parent. neither nudity or sexuality are bad things and people need to realise that. the only way to counter this kind of ignorance is through education.

Fahrenheit 451

May 16, 2004 — Leave a comment

i`m a lot calmer today, almost purely by the good graces of my wife. i`m still annoyed by the moralising but i`ll live, however in the midst of the visitors on friday i was trolled by, which begs the question, am i just being paranoid or am paranoid enough?

as to complaints about nakedness in this journal or any other, i`d like to leave you with this thought:

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:25, King James Version

and today`s link

I`m curious what your plan is to get JS management to get around to your way of thinking. I`ve noticed you have comments as well as private messaging disabled from your journal. I am parent and I don`t need your help.

As part of my parental duties, I am responsible for what my children watch, where they surf and I monitor it and take the time to explain why they are not allowed to visit certain sites or watch certain programming. I do a very good job, I don`t your standards of morality imposed on me.

This self righteous crusade on this public forum is unappealing. If you`re worried about what your children are looking at, maybe you should take the time and sit and talk with them and if you have no children and are doing this for the `public good`, maybe you should deal with your own issues in private.

Maybe you should target the parents of the children who are looking at inappropriate material for not supervising their children properly or letting them run wild and blaming someone else.

It`s time for people to wake up and take responsibility for their children, not palm off the behavioural problems they have been encouraging for so long on the internet or television or any one other than themselves.

No amount of individual lawsuits, class actions suits, committees, protests, training camps or censorship is going to stop children from doing inappropriate things, seeing things that you are not ready for them to see unless you teach them better. If they are taught properly, they will more than likely deal with whatever they see, hear, experience in a manner that is appropriate.

A child`s behavioural model rests solely in the hands of the parents. As my mother taught me, it`s not so much delinquent children, it`s delinquent parents.