on wednesday i celebrated my 10th wedding anniversary. this is the longest single relationship in my entire life and the time has flown by. it’s not been a cakewalk, there have been many ups and downs but we’ve got through them and we’re going to keep going. when i first arrived in the US; two years after our actually wedding; i talked about how as much as it seemed like, our relationship was not going to be a fairytale.
i mean that in the most positive way, society seems to set this expectation that once your significant other woos you, sweeps you off your feet and nuptials are over, you live happily ever after. you can but you have to work at it. there is no short cut. there are going to be bad days, there are going to be worse days, and there will be arguments, this is to be expected. but there will be days that are so amazing, you will wonder what you’ve done to deserve something so spectacular. the key is to remember the balance. you have to work on this amazing relationship every day. don’t go to bed angry is good, but to wake up and remember why you fell in love is better.
my 30s have been my best decade to date and i think a lot of it has to do with my relationship. i’d like to think i’ve grown and gotten better as a person, i could also be delusional. i know i am happier and i’m finally comfortable saying it out loud. i’ve enjoyed the last 10 years – through the sickness, the health, the poorer, the richer, the sadness, the happiness and i’m looking forward to continuing to remember why i love this woman every day.