a couple sundays ago was my seventh wedding anniversary. i know there are people out there that have been married longer, but this has been my longest adult relationship. i remember posting the day before i moved here about not expecting a fairy tale. and i was right. i think too many people get into relationships expecting the happily ever after. they work on the courting and wooing but don’t continue after the relationship is established. this where the trip up is. like everything else that’s successful it requires work and realistic expectations.
i think one of those expectations is compromise. even though the concept of open discourse seems to be lost in the wider populace, i think if we start at home, maybe it will find its way back. i’m not saying don’t disagree; the occasional arguments are healthy, especially the making up part; but don’t just walk away from it either and it’s not the end of the world if you argue or disagree. if the relationship is over after an argument, there were more fundamental problems.
we are not perfect, we all have our flaws, there is always going to be that thing your partner does that just infuriates you, but it works both ways too but there is that twinkle or that one thing about them that makes you fall in love again every single day. it’s not about overlooking fatal flaws and sticking it out no matter what but finding that compromise.