Pottery, Copper or Leather Goods

January 18, 2011 — 2 Comments

today is my ninth wedding anniversary and there’s something that i wrote when i was just getting ready to move in with vic that has remained true almost seven years later:

vic and i are not living in a fairy tale and we know that. things are not going to be peachy and perfect all the time. we both have our off days, luckily we seem to have them when we can provide the most support to each other.

we’re both strong willed people and we’re both accustomed to doing things a certain way, we’re sure it’s going to take some getting used to.

what we have going for us, is our ability to talk about anything without discomfort or contention. we expect there will be problems, but we also think we can sit and talk about them and work them out. there are going to be external forces to deal with as well, but we will try and work those out in the safest possible manner for us.

we’re going to try and deal with each day as it comes. we have shared long term goals that we’ll be working towards when i get settled. in the interim, it’s about learning to live with each other and getting comfortable sharing a physical space.

i know it’s not going to be perfect all the time but i think if we abide the rule to not go to bed angry, i think we can face whatever challenges come up, together.

we’ve had our ups and downs in the time since i wrote this. and i would say the last year has probably been one of our most trying but we made it through and here’s looking forward to our 10th anniversary and beyond.

2 responses to Pottery, Copper or Leather Goods

  1. I love this, Keifel. You and Victoria are a great example of what love truly is, the tough stuff and everything. 🙂

  2. happy anniversary. i remember when you guys got married. yay!
    as someone who has had a bad year, but has a great partner by her side as they slide toward 20th anniversary status this summer, i wish you the best. hang tough, and when you don’t have to be tough, be tender and amazing.

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